|
 
|
||||
|
||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Myths&Facts | Client's Story | Counsel FAQ |
Myths & Facts
|
| ........................................................................................................ |
"The fighting between spouses is like cutting water with a sword?" We easily ignore violence against wives as just a domestic affair, not a social issue, and there is even a saying, "fighting between spouses is like cutting water with a sword" However, domestic violence can lead to serious results to the victims both physically and mentally. Thus, it should not be regarded as "trivial." They deserve it? The child must have done something wrong? The wife must have gotten on her husband's nerves? These are the prejudices we have. According to the statistics of the Seoul Women's Hotline, however, most of the husbands beat their wives with no special reason. Even if the wives did something wrong to their husbands, it cannot be the reason for the husbands to assault their wives. There is no excuse whatsoever that can justify violence on others. In the case of child abuse, we hear often that parents beat their children on educational purposes. However, according to a statistics, kids even under the age of 3 are beaten by their parents, and this is clearly showing us that violence against children should not be tolerated in the name of education. Domestic violence is not a serious problem but just a common practice? Home violence is the product of patriarchal society. There is a general idea that wives and children are just possessions of their husbands and fathers, resulting in tolerating, justifying and spreading domestic violence. Therein lies the vicious cycle. That is, domestic violence brings wives and children under the assaulters' control, creating an environment in which violence in the home is promoted. Remember! there can be no excuse for domestic violence! Beating kids to educate them? Our society is nurturing and justifying corporal punishment on children on the grounds that it has educational effects. However, the statistics of the Seoul Women's Hotline shows that children get battered even in an age when punishment is no longer considered effective. This means that corporal punishment cannot be said as purely educational. Men must be brought up to be masculine, women must be brought up to be feminine? Our social custom has forced us to believe that boys should be masculine and girls feminine, stereotyping gender roles. Thus, in many aspects boys' violent behaviors are glorified as brave, and girls are forced to be obedient to physical violence under any circumstances. There is no doubt that this has negative impacts on our children. In some cases, children, who saw their fathers beat their mothers, find themselves abusing their sisters, brothers and friends. It is nonsense that violence against the elderly exists in the country of piety? Due to this wrong belief, it is very difficult for the elderly to tell that they are abused by their own sons and daughters. No matter how brutal their children are, they just want to impose the least legal sanctions on their off spring. The offenders are psychopathic or alcoholic? This is not true. Unlike what people think, alcoholics rarely beat other people. Although drinking can cause a person to lose self-control, we cannot say that it always leads to violence. It might be possible for people to drink alcohol as an excuse to beat other people or to get away with their violent behaviors. Domestic violence occurs only in poor families? Regardless of social status, class, religious and educational backgrounds, domestic violence occurs. Women are the ones who cause domestic violence? Women under repeated beatings by their husbands cannot just leave their spouses mainly because they have strong sense of responsibilities on their children, they are not economically independent and the social prejudice places the responsibility of domestic violence on them. This explains why domestic violence is not just a personal matter but a social problem. |